Contents:
- Understanding the Emotional Rollercoaster
- Creating a Supportive Environment
- The Importance of Open Communication
- Managing Expectations and Setting Realistic Goals
- Dealing with Disappointment
- Celebrating Achievements, Big and Small
- Encouraging Self-Care and Wellbeing
- Seeking External Support When Needed
- Modelling Resilience
- Looking Ahead
Results week can be a tumultuous time for teenagers, filled with anticipation and anxiety. For parents, it’s a period that can require just as much careful navigation as it does for their teens. Being able to offer the right kind of emotional support can make a world of difference. Here at Compass, we deeply care about the experience of not only educators and students, but also parents. Let’s explore some practical ways parents can be there for their teens during this critical time.
Understanding the Emotional Rollercoaster
First and foremost, it’s crucial to acknowledge the emotional rollercoaster that results week can bring. Even the most laid-back teens can feel the pressure from both external sources, like teachers or peers, and internal ones, like their own expectations.
As parents, be mindful that your teen might experience a range of emotions, from excitement and relief to disappointment and anxiety. By recognising and validating these feelings, you’re setting the stage for open and honest communication.
Creating a Supportive Environment
Creating a safe and calm home environment is essential during results week. This can be as simple as ensuring the home is a peaceful place where teens know they can retreat and relax.
You might consider doing things like having a favourite meal ready or planning some family downtime that doesn’t focus on grades or results. The objective here is to cultivate an atmosphere where your teen feels secure and loved, no matter what the results may be.
The Importance of Open Communication
Encouraging open communication is vital. Let your teen know that it’s okay to talk about their concerns, fears, and even their hopes for the future.
When they do speak, listen attentively without judgement or interruption. This can help them feel heard and understood, which in turn can alleviate some of their stress. Be prepared for a variety of reactions and offer reassurance and comfort as needed.
Asking open-ended questions like “How are you feeling about your results?” rather than “Do you think you did well?” may encourage more meaningful conversations.
Managing Expectations and Setting Realistic Goals
Results week can often bring up conversations about future plans and next steps. While it’s important to discuss these topics, it’s equally important to do so in a way that isn’t overwhelming.
Help your teen manage their expectations by setting realistic goals. Remind them that one set of exam results doesn’t define their entire future. Use this as an opportunity to explore different pathways and options that align with their strengths and interests.
Dealing with Disappointment
If results aren’t what your teen hoped for, it’s crucial to help them navigate their disappointment. Acknowledge their feelings and avoid minimising their emotions with statements like, “It’s not the end of the world.” While well-meaning, this can sometimes invalidate their experience.
Instead, focus on helping them process their emotions and explore their options. Discussing contingency plans and alternative routes can be comforting and constructive. Ensuring they understand that setbacks are part of life can also be incredibly empowering.
Celebrating Achievements, Big and Small
When things go well, celebrating achievements is just as important as handling disappointments. Recognition from parents can boost a teen’s self-esteem and motivation.
Celebrate even the small victories, whether it’s an improvement in a particular subject or the effort they put into studying. This can help them feel valued and acknowledged for their hard work.
Encouraging Self-Care and Wellbeing
Remind your teen of the importance of self-care during this stressful period. Encourage them to take breaks, engage in activities they enjoy, and maintain a healthy routine.
Simple things like a walk, a favourite hobby, or even some quiet time can make a significant difference in managing stress. Highlighting the significance of mental and emotional wellbeing can help them develop healthy coping mechanisms for the future.
Seeking External Support When Needed
Sometimes the emotional load might be too much for both you and your teen to carry alone. In such cases, seeking external support is not only okay but also encouraged. School counsellors, tutors, or even mental health professionals can provide valuable perspectives and strategies for coping with stress and anxiety.
If your teen’s school is using Compass as their Management Information System, you can communicate with teachers and tutors straight from the ParentApp. What is more, the app notifies you every time there is a change in the behaviour or wellbeing of your teen, so that both you and the teacher can make timely interventions.
Modelling Resilience
As a parent, your actions can have a significant impact on your teen’s outlook. Demonstrate resilience and a positive attitude in the face of challenges. By showing your teen that setbacks can be overcome and that it’s okay to seek help, you’re modelling valuable life skills.
Looking Ahead
Results week is just one of many stepping stones in your teen’s educational journey. Fostering a positive, supportive, and understanding environment can help them navigate this and other challenges with greater ease.
Encourage your teen to look ahead and see the bigger picture. Remind them that learning is a lifelong process and that there are many paths to success. By supporting them through this stressful period, you’re helping to build a foundation of resilience and confidence that will serve them well in all future endeavours.
For all your MIS needs and information on how to support your teen, reach out to Compass Education. Our team of experts can provide tailored solutions to help your school create a nurturing and supportive environment for student success.
